Adoption in Korea

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Over the past six decades, at least 200,000 Korean children have been adopted into families in more than 15 countries, with the vast majority living in the US. Even though Korea has the longest running national adoption program in the world, adoption in Korea is still considered a taboo subject. Korean culture has strong Confucius roots that places a high value on ancestry and bloodline. Family is very important. Who you are as an individual is considered a direct reflection of your family and your bloodline. During job interviews, it is not uncommon to be asked for your family registry (which includes information about your family and genealogy) as well as details concerning your parents and their line of work.

After the Korean War, the South Korean government encouraged a limit on births per family: anyone with more than two children was seen as unpatriotic. People began to abandon unwanted babies at police stations or markets. There were also tens of thousands of biracial children, the result of relations between foreign servicemen and Korean women, as well as children orphaned by the war. These children were unwanted and shunned by Korean society. In 1955, Harry and Bertha Holt, an American couple from Eugene, Oregon, moved to Korea and started an orphanage to care for these unwanted children. With the help of Child Placement Services, Holt Adoption Program carried out its first international adoption process, placing twelve Korean-born orphans with families in the United States. Harry’s departure with the twelve children was very public and aired on many television and radio stations across the U.S.

In the peak of Korean inter-country adoption in the eighties, an estimated 24 babies a day left the country and came under the care of foreign families. In 1987, about 58% of foreign adoptees arriving in the U.S. were from Korea. In 1986, Korea hosted the Seoul Asian Games as well as the 1988 Olympic Games, which brought a lot of foreign attention to Korea. Around this time, the South Korean government issued administrative instructions to refrain from inter-country adoptions as they were receiving so much international attention. However, this did not regulate international adoptions. During the 1988 Olympic Games, the foreign press concentrated on the expanding number of children being adopted overseas and saw Korea as “the world’s top orphan exporter.” The media specifically focused on the continual increase in overseas adoptions in spite of Korea’s astonishing economic growth, its rapid rise to affluence, and prestige as hosts of the Olympic Games.

After receiving so much criticism, the government established the Adoption Project Improvement Guideline on June 1989 to boost domestic adoptions. This guideline was expected to lower inter-country adoptions every year and eventually eliminate it with the exception of mixed-race or disabled children by 1996. The plan was withdrawn in 1995 due to the lack of domestic adoption. Since then, the South Korean government has taken different measures to curtail the exodus of Korean-born children and increase domestic adoption rates. In 2007, the number of international adoptions dropped below the number of domestic adoptions--not because domestic adoptions increased, but due to Korean law that reduced international adoptions. Before the Special Adoption Law (2008-2011), there were an average of 1,408 international adoptions per year. After the Special Adoption Law (2013-2015), the average dropped to 669 children adopted internationally.

There have been many cultural and societal issues that have made adoption a taboo in Korea, but in the past couple of years the government has been changing policies and raising awareness about the issue of Korean-born orphans. Progress is being made to improve the lives of orphans and place them in caring homes. In 2005, the Ministry of Health and Welfare designated May 11th as National Adoption Day and the week immediately after has been designated as Adoption Week. In 2006, local organizations, with the help of the government, began carrying out events to help establish healthy adoption culture. There have been adoption policy establishments, surveys and research, post-adoption management, family support, education, as well as promotion of adoption through broadcast, newspaper, internet and pamphlet to encourage adoption and facilitate a smooth adjustment to family life after adoption.

HANDLE WITH CARE CONFERENCE

 

 

On Saturday, November 12th from 10am to 4pm, the first ever foster care and orphan care conference will take place in South Korea. The conference will have speakers from Mission to Promote Adoption of Kids (MPAK), Hope for Orphans, Holt Children's Services, and other leaders in the field of orphan and foster care through out Korea. They will be explaining the challenges of orphan care in Korean culture and will raise awareness of the orphan crisis in South Korea. Attendees will also have a chance to hear testimonies from adopted children and updates on adoption laws. This conference will provide practical ways that churches can care for orphans, present other options aside from adoption as means of orphan care, and to really challenge churches in Korea to be active in caring for orphans. 

 

Pastor Eddie Byun will be one of the guest speakers at the conference. We asked him a few questions about the challenges that have made this a growing issues. 

Have there been major issues that made people realize the need for more awareness and intervention in the foster care/adoption system? 

Current laws and quotas placed on inter-country adoption is making it more urgent for Koreans and expats in Korea to become more actively engaged in caring for orphans in Korea. There are more opportunities for residents in Korea to be care-givers and those families who do give care from Korea (even expats), because even the adoptions by expats who reside in Korea will not be counted against the quota for inter-country adoptions, providing more opportunities for these children to gain families. 


What have been the biggest challenges in reforming these (adoption/foster care) systems?

There are many challenges. Korean cultural hurdles against adoption, the importance of bloodline in Korean culture, churches not seeing the role of orphan care as a gospel issue. These are just a few of the challenges I've come across over the years. 


How have things changed in the past decade?

Not enough has changed, which is why I felt the need to begin this type of conference to educate and mobilize the church to be caregivers for the orphans of Korea. 

For more information, tickets, location and directions please click here

 

The Need For Member Care

Written by Carolyn Klejment-Lavin

 

The Need for Member Care

 

Missionaries can be a stressed out bunch. I know, because I’ve been one. I’ve also been married to one and the both of us will likely be stressed out missionaries again.

 

Once upon a time my husband and I were brand new rosy-cheeked cross-cultural workers in Southeast Asia.  We fully expected the transition to our new home to be difficult. We were Intercultural Studies majors in undergrad, we knew all the stages of culture shock, we read the books on transition and adjustment, we took the pre-field training- we knew what we were getting into. And we were right, adjustment was hard. There was the oppressive heat, the crazy traffic, communication difficulties, intensive language school and the fact that the culture was barely anything like the dozens of pocket sized guidebooks we poured over had told us it would be. But there was also something deeper than some of those expected difficulties. We felt an incredible pressure to produce and perform. Surely our sending churches and organization had high expectations of us, however, most of the pressure was from within ourselves. Doing development work to be salt and light in the world was our dream. It was what we went to school for. What we stayed up for hours talking about. What we raised support for almost 2 years for.

 

"We felt an incredible pressure to produce and perform. Surely our sending churches and organization had high expectations of us, however, most of the pressure was from within ourselves."

 

We had to be effective. This was it. And people were sacrificially giving so we could do this! However, intense pressure to perform, high expectations, loneliness and 90% humidity is not going to end well. Several months after our arrival, the circumstances caught up with us and we broke down. When we got to the breaking point, we didn’t know where to turn for the professional help we needed. We eventually found some help outside of the country we were serving in, but it was very limited and we still needed more support. We were also ashamed that we needed help and didn’t want anyone to know. We were afraid we would lose our financial support if people knew how much we were struggling because they would think we weren’t a good investment. So we pretended we were okay.

 

"Missionary attrition can have negative effects on the missionaries, their families, the sending missions agency, other missionary staff and the local people the missionaries were working with."

 

Today, as a counselor and as someone who has been serving cross culturally for 6 years, I feel so sad thinking of how we felt and how we didn’t reach out to more people during that time. I wish we hadn’t been so afraid. I wish we had known how normal cross-cultural stress is and how necessary the need for care is. On one stress scale called the Holmes-Rahe scale, 300 points of stress or above is considered the danger zone for potential physical illness and a person is encouraged to make significant life changes. A study done on a modified version of this scale found that the average missionary has approximately 600 points of stress a year! Many of the stress factors are not unique to the missionary experience but the physical, cultural, political and geographical contexts in which missionaries live and work increase their risk. When all of these stressors and challenges add up and cannot be coped with any longer, it can lead to unplanned missionary resignation from the field, otherwise known as missionary attrition. Missionary attrition can have negative effects on the missionaries, their families, the sending missions agency, other missionary staff and the local people the missionaries were working with. In a study by the World Evangelical Fellowship, they found that of the career missionaries that leave each year, 71% leave for preventable reasons.

 

"This January, Footstool is offering a free member care retreat for missionaries serving in Asia to come and rest. To have time to process and reflect. Be loved on and cared for through time of Bible study, prayer, counseling, and pampering."

 

So what can we do? Well, I think there is a lot we can do! One starting point for both senders and goers is to promote a healthy ideology of work and stress from psychological perspective and prioritizes Sabbath rest and identity outside of work from theological perspective. At Footstool, our heart is to do all we can to support missions work in the 10/40 window and with the clearly critical need for member care we want to do our best to support those serving in the 10/40 window by caring for their emotional and mental health. This January, Footstool is offering a free member care retreat for missionaries serving in Asia to come and rest. To have time to process and reflect. Be loved on and cared for through time of Bible study, prayer, counseling, and pampering. We believe this kind of time of rest is necessary as preventative care so that cross cultural workers don’t reach the breaking point and to enable them to thrive in their work.

 

Would you consider helping us to provide this member care retreat?

 

The member care retreat will have seasoned member care speakers who have experience in leading missionaries into times of rest and refreshment. In addition to the speakers, there will be counseling services available, rest/relaxation specialists, free childcare, and medical/dental specialists to serve the retreat attendees. The retreat will offer room and board for four days and three nights for all participants and volunteers, including free transportation to and from the airport in Seoul, South Korea to the retreat center.

 

Footstool is partnering with a number of churches and organizations to host this member care retreat for those serving overseas in Asia. We are looking for help 2 major ways:

  • Finances: this retreat will be free for all the missionaries. We are looking for churches and individuals to come along side to care for these missionaries.
  • Volunteers: we need volunteers to help with children’s ministry, worship, prayer, logistics, and hospitality. We are also looking for medical, dental, massage, hair/nails, and education specialists.

We hope you will partner with us to provide this much needed retreat! To support with a financial gift please click HERE and to sign up to volunteer for the retreat click HERE.